Odd title, I know.
I was thinking about the situations that people find themselves in that make them unhappy. It goes without saying that bad things happen to good people. Those things are rarely anticipated and usually have the effect of blindsiding the individual. But, what about the aftermath? Well, quite simply, its a choice as to how we respond to the blindsides. Always, always, always ... its a choice. We can wallow in victim mode indefinitely or, we can get up and move forward.
I've always been a firm believer that our minds and/or thoughts are our most powerful tools. Where your thinking goes, so goes your life. All of that brings me back around to the title of my post. If we stay in victim mode, we are in a prison of our own making. We can stay miserable, we can wallow, we can blame but, we won't move forward. Sometimes breaking down those prison walls means admitting that the status quo is no longer working. It means that we have to have the courage to envision something better for ourselves and move toward it. And, it is damned hard. No one ever said it would be easy. There will be pain.
The thing about taking control of our lives is that no matter how hard the journey is, its ours to plan ... our bus to drive. It is terrifying and freeing and occasionally sad and often hopeful. It is saying no to things that no longer serve us and hello to possibilities for real joy. It is unearthing that self that was buried for so long under layers of someone else's vision. Its a work in progress and it means being braver than you've ever felt on any given day. And, its worth it to walk out into the sunlight of our own dreams.